An Apology to SAHMs
I always dreamed I’d be a stay at home mommy. I pictured myself doing cute activities with my cute kids in our cute house while wearing cute, yet casual clothes. Then my cute husband would come home and I’d tell him all the cute stories about our day. Well, I got the cute husband, but with our career choices, we decided it would be best for us both to work (it’s hard enough to make it on two teachers’ salaries, let alone one!) I didn’t really sweat it. I can pick the kids up at 3:30 most days and we have AMAZING day care (I think she’s a better mom to my boys than I am. Seriously.) Still, there will probably always be a little part of me that’s jealous of women who don’t have to juggle career and family. I will admit that I have, on occasion, said or thought the following things:
- Oh! I’ll have plenty of time in the summer. I don’t work for three months!
- Finally, I’ll be able to get on top of the house cleaning and get a couple of projects done!
- You’re so lucky to be able to stay home with your kids!
- If I stayed home all year, I’d have so much more time for (insert thing I wish I had more time for here)
- Well, she’s a stay at home mom! Of course she has time to (insert thing I wish I did here)
- It sure would be nice never to have to worry about work
For three months out of every year, I get to forget about the career (mostly) and live out my childhood dream of being nothing more than a Mommy and wife. You’d think after five brief SAH stints, I’d have it figured out. It ain’t easy! But my first summer home with Reed he was a new baby. The next I was pregnant and lazy. Then I had two munchkins under age three to chase. Then I was pregnant again. Slept that ENTIRE summer. The next I had a newborn. Every summer there was an excuse for why my hair was in a permanent pony tail, my boys wore pajamas more often than clothes, and my house was a wreck. But this summer was to be different. The littlest is starting to cut the cord a little and the bigs are pretty self sufficient. So THIS was gonna be the summer that I FINALLY got to:
- Keep my house spotless (Raging tornado. All the time.)
- Get my pre-babies body back (Ha!)
- Keep a current, riveting blog, maybe even pick up a ton of readers and get sponsors to buy me junk to make crafts for free (Hi, Mom!)
- Do daily devotions
- Make my boys geniuses by doing “school at home” every day (We’ve learned more potty humor than phonics)
- Go on nature walks, cook with the boys, and do other super-mommy stuff
- Keep a semi-structured schedule
- Complete all three boys’ baby books
- Finally paint over the butt-ugly mint green hallway
- Make all the things I’ve pinned, plus create masterpieces of my own (1 down, 734 to go)
- Plan and prep for an entire school year so I don’t have to bring ANY work home
OK, a little ambitious, I realize, but I thought I’d least get one or two items checked off the list. Nope. Not a one. And we’re down to T minus 2 weeks here, so it’s not looking promising, people. Worse, I’ve got no excuses this year.
I figured out the problem, though. I was banking on 6-8 hours a day to accomplish the list. I mean, that’s how much time I spend at work during the school year, right? I just forgot about one small factor – well, three factors, actually. Make that four. The hubs has summers off too. And while he’s helpful, he also eats and
makes messes uses the house all day. I have such a total respect for Mrs. Pam, the boys’ mom away from mom. How she manages to keep 8-10 turds ranging in age from 0 to 5 entertained, fed, happy, and learning without turning on the TV and/or pulling out all of her hair, I do not know. I love my three little biscuits, but WOW their care and keeping can suck up a day’s time pretty fast! And it’s not like we’re sleeping the day away or anything. Those suckers have me rolling outta bed around 7 every morning. Then it’s pretty much feed, clean up after, break up fights, and entertain or supervise until bed time. Sure, I sneak in a few minutes here and there, but I usually end up staying up until midnight or one just to get a little “me” time. And by then, I just wanna veg out on educational sites, like craft blogs or Pinterest or facebook.
So, to all the SAHMs out there: You are amazing. I am not worthy. And I get to drop my kids off at daycare in two weeks. Nanny nanny boo boo!